Monday, 14 July 2014

A Surprise Delivery! Meet Marley Paul...

For those of you that don't already know, we had a rather surprise delivery "turn up" on 9th July...

Meet Marley Paul, born on 9th July 2014, weighing 7lbs 2oz...



I did not know I was even pregnant! I've felt really ill for quite a long time, but never put any of it down to the fact that I might be pregnant! I felt really ill overnight, lots of stomach pains and feeling ill, I was feeling so bad, I was getting ready to go to the walk-in centre when they opened at 7am, but it was only 3am at this point. By 4am, I'd got very bad and at around 5.30am, Paul called an ambulance as I was screaming out in agony. But about 5-10 mins after calling, I experienced the worst bit of pain and a rather strange sensation - I got Paul to look what had happened and I think his exact words were "Fuck! It's a baby!" - obviously not what we were expecting. Basically, I was really worried what was wrong with me and by that point, Paul was panicking too, but neither of us expected that! So we had an amazing shock as you can imagine! David was in his bedroom and he was really upset and worried about me too - imagine his surprise when Paul raced up to tell him not to worry and he had a new baby brother!!

Our little family of 3 turned into a family of 4 overnight! The ambulance crew were as shocked as we were when they arrived to find a baby! Paul had called my Mum to look after David when he'd called for an ambulance, so imagine her shock too when he rang back moments later to tell her it was actually a baby! Basically everyone, not least of all me and Paul were in total shock!

The following 24 hours were totally surreal. It was like being in some sort of dreamland. I went from worrying what was wrong with me and being in agony, to sitting in a hospital bed with a newborn baby that we didn't even know was coming. I could see him, hold him, feed him, but it didn't really feel real. It started to feel a little more real on Thursday and even more so by Friday. We brought him home from the hospital on Friday night night. It's nice to be back home now - I was so fed up being stuck in the hospital for 3 days!

I've read about stuff like this in magazines and always thought to myself, how could someone NOT know they were pregnant, but now I know exactly how it feels! So, you're wondering HOW could I not know? Let me explain...

Well, in general, I suffer from ill health, so feeling unwell wasn't unusual. Since our other son was born in 2002, I've had extremely irregular periods, so infrequent in fact, that 6-12 months in between getting one was not unheard of for me, so again, no alarm bells there. I didn't have a massive weight gain, and what weight I did gain, I put down to the fact that I was so ill and not able to get out and get regular exercise, so again, no real clues there. From the "symptoms" I was having, it could've been any number of things. I probably should have visited the doctor sooner, especially as I had felt worse recently, but like I said previously, I am ill quite often with various, so didn't think too much of it. The symptoms I felt may have related to some sort of bowel problem like IBS or IBD. Over the last week, I'd had some twinges in my stomach, but again, I'd put that down to some sort of stomach problem. I had severe back pain in the last week too, but again, I just put this down to some sort of stomach/bowel problem and was going to go to the doctors about it. Basically, there was nothing that made me think it could possibly be down to pregnancy! In fact, in light of the fact that my periods were so sporadic to the point of virtually non-existent, I doubted that it was even possible for my to get pregnant and as David is now 11 years old and my periods had been virtually non-existent since he was born, that just made me think it even more. So there you have it, how I didn't know I was pregnant!

Anyway, me & Paul are really happy, we had never discounted having other children, but we both doubted that it was possible. It would've been nice for him to have been planned in that at least that way we'd have been prepared in terms of having stuff for him! As it was, we didn't have a single baby thing at the ready! But he is a very welcome addition to the family and his big brother David (whilst still in shock, I think) is very happy with his new baby brother. It must have been even more difficult for him to take in than it was for us, but he's been very grown up about it all and he's taken an active interest in him and likes helping out - we've been making a big effort to get him involved too to make the transition easier for him. He's very helpful too and I'm very proud of how mature he has been but I can only imagine how daunting it is to him.


All the family have been fantastic. My Mum and the older of my 2 younger sisters, Yasmin were absolutely fantastic, dashing around and buying us loads of stuff and all the essentials we needed as we had quite literally nothing ready for a baby (unsurprisingly). My other little sister, Latisha is made up - she seems to like being an Aunty again - I'm sure it feels more like being an Aunty this time, because it's a bit strange how she is David's Aunty but is the same age!

Paul's parents live in Winchester, so they will be coming up to visit in the next month and meet their newest Grandson.

It's Monday now, we're all still getting used to being a family of four, it still doesn't feel quite real to be honest, a bit like I feel asleep Tuesday and I'm dreaming or woke up in a parallel universe! Enjoying every minute of being a new Mum again though and enjoying being back with David & Paul.

I'll leave you now with some pics of Marley Paul...




48 comments:

  1. absolutely amazing news! and congrats to you both, what a lovely surprise lol

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  2. Wow, congrats!!! The same thing happened to my mum with her 4th baby (my brother). She had no idea she was even pregnant! I can't even begin to imagine how shocked and how surreal it must be.
    He is beautiful, congrats again! :) xx

    http://mumx3x.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you :) It's unbelievable, and I can totally understand how your mum felt now! Much more used to it now, but it's still a bit surreal, I'm not sure when it will stop being so x

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    2. Congratulations. Hope you are all very happy.

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  3. beautiful boy - beautiful surprise - beautiful story xxx congrats to you all xx

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  4. Such an amazing story and a lovely surprise. Congratulations to you all. David looks so chuffed and Marley is a such a cutie. Well done to all your family for being so supportive in your hour of need xxx

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    1. Thank you :) David's done amazing as it's been an even bigger change for him and combined with him leaving primary school, I think it's been an emotional rollercoaster for him, I'm super proud of how fantastic he's been. We're all adjusting to the change well, definitely feels more real now xx

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  5. Even though I've read your story a few times now and seen all the gorgeous pics, reading this blog has still bought tears to my eyes! Such a happy surprise story, I love it! Your Boys are beautiful and I'm sure your gonna be a very happy family of 4! Congrats once again! xxx

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    1. Thank you :) We're enjoying being a family of 4, still a bit surreal, but it's a fantastic feeling xx

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  6. Wow! What an amazing story!! He is beautiful! Huge congratulations x

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  7. Gosh, what a wonderful surprise... Many congratulations to you all x

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  8. Congratulations and he is beautiful

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  9. Go how on earth do you even begin to get your head round that! Huge congratulations. Make sure you take time to adjust!

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    1. I don't know, I'm getting there though :D Thank you xx

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  10. what an amazing shock! Well done and congrats

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  11. Wow congratulations! I've seen the show I didn't know I was pregnant so many times and honestly didn't believe it actually happened! What a surprise for you!
    All the best for you and your family x

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    1. Well, I'd read it in magazines and had difficulty believing how someone could not know they were pregnant! But now I know lol :P Thank you x

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  12. Wow what a lovely surprise and shock! Congratulations to you all xx

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  13. Goodness, what a wonderful shock. Delighted for you all!

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  14. Fantastic news, my mam sent me this link as she knows you through Facebook. Iv got a 9 and a half month old. Crazy to think all the time my baby has been growing, your has too unknown. How amazing and congratulations to you 3 xxx harriet

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    1. Tell me about it lol :P It's so strange to have a baby ut of the blue - feels like some sort of magic trick!! Thank you xx

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  15. Wow...fantastic surprise and a gorgeous baby. Thank you for explaining how it is possible to not know you are pregnant....I've always wondered. Congratulations to you all.

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    1. I'd always wondered myself :P Not any more though, but it's the most bizarre thing that has ever happened to me!! Thank you x

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  16. I still can't believe this myself! The second picture is really cute! So cheeky looking :)

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    1. He has a cheeky look about him a lot, I bet he was smiling when he popped out, I know it's only wind, but he often has a cheeky little look or a cheeky little smile perfectly timed :P x

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  17. Amazing story - congratulations!

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

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  18. A beautiful baby! Congratulations. That's quite a story, and will be told forever I'm sure. Rest up.

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  19. Absolutely amazing! Congratulations to you all! x

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  20. I did hear there had been a surprise addition to the Brownsea family but only now read the post, and my, what a delightful surprise! Congrats! <3

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  21. Wow what a lovely shock. Congratulations to you all

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  22. I know this is an old post, but I came back to reread it this morning, as its such a fab one, so so pleased for you!

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